Shyness, RL Vs. The Internet

[Tum0spoo]

Iam that person that would run up to someone screaming, "I STRIKE YOU WITH A CARDBOARD BOX!" and walk away. Though if someone began talking to me about something, I tend to stutter and overthink myself due to the discomfort. You would probablyrecognize my RL self, as I base everything about Kelix's, my fursona, personality on my own codes of conduct. Some of you know that I can be a careing person and try everyhting I can to help with the most difficult of issues. Other times I can be as or more insane than Blur, A total furvert, or a steeler's fanatic. All in all I thinkit varies from personal experiences. What you go through in reallife can greatly effect your reaction to people online. The reverse is also true. In fact, over this past summer, knowing you guys has given me a huge vote of selfesteem. When school began again this past august, I realized that I wasn't as much a an unlikeable, unpopular person I once thought. The actions of your online self and your RL self directly effect eachother and can change the way you act.


*takes a bow and steals Blur's trout*
*flee*

[Niko123000]

What you go through in reallife can greatly effect your reaction to people online. The reverse is also true. In fact, over this past summer, knowing you guys has given me a huge vote of selfesteem. When school began again this past august, I realized that I wasn't as much a an unlikeable, unpopular person I once thought. The actions of your online self and your RL self directly effect eachother and can change the way you act.

Wait... I need to bring that up. I think you have a good point there. Because last year Me = Social Outcast, but this year, me = Slightly cool guy.

The only diffrence, was actually the fact I joined this (and a bunch of other) forums.

[Steve the Pocket]

Iam that person that would run up to someone screaming, "I STRIKE YOU WITH A CARDBOARD BOX!" and walk away.

Wait, that was you? Geez. You scared the crap outta me, man. Don't do that anymore!

[Chris]

The one you guys see in the IRC channel is the opposite of the real me, I never OR attemp to talk to people i dont know.

Around with my cousins and my family, Im more of a millie kind of guy (crazy, talk to much, causes havoc)...but when it comes to other people i dont know i never or attemp to talk to them thats how shy i really am heck if i have a chance to meet one of you guys....i will just stand there and do nothing...ABSOLUTELY Nothing!

But IMO the internet (the IRC) is lowering my shyness a little bit...

[FerretParade]

I'm usually pretty shy and retiring to people I don't know too well, and unless I have to, I won't talk to them.

However, that's where my good friend Mr. Beer comes in

Haha dude I'm totally talkative in real life with the right amount of influence from the same man!

[Tum0spoo]

Alright I've got some interesting stuff...
Well, I don't really want to talk about it too much, but as you know I've been offline more than I'd like.
A long time ago I was pretty much a step below suicidal. I was the kid everyone hated and made fun of y'know? Well, since my internet self came into being and I began to make friends in you guys and others, I was able to step up and become a much happier person. A couple days ago though, I had sort of a relapse, which ended in my crawling under my bed with a plushie and crying for a few hours. Really, I think the effects of online relationships delve deeper into people's psych than we realize.

[Holyman83]

awwww *hugs Tum0spoo*
you sohuld try to find some local friends too thou.

[Tum0spoo]

Also, at the start of this school year I was very happy and determined to do well, I was getting A all around, then I got depressed about being away so long and my grades have dropped to D's >:O
Anyway, being here just a short time has helped me feel better. I think it's safe to say that online lives can have a major effect on RL personalities.
(talk to yall again either when my comp is fixed or next wednesday, whichever comes first)

[Niko123000]

Tum0, your making a very good point actually, and I can relate to it in a way. Before I became part of all the Forums I was in, I was what was considered a geek/dork/nerd/gaylord and picked on constantly for my looks, which was the classic Boy next Door look. However, over the summer, I went through a metamorphisis of sorts and oveerauled my looks. Sending all my Joke Shirts and ones that don't look good on me to the basement ((Except the OM and IDT shirts)) and got some new shirts of bands I really like, as well as a new Backpack, an Denim Jacket. I tssed the hat to the floor and when I went to school the first day, the first response from everyone was "HOLY MOTHER OF F*** THAT'S AARON?!"
And what's even more is that Since I Idiscovered the furry community, I have become more social to all my friends and now even have a girlfriend.

Your Right Tum0, the internet can affect your RL, but it doesn't make you less social like it's led out to be belived, it makes you more social.

[CodeCat]

Discovering the furry fandom has changed me a lot as well. People who would look back at the IRC logs from when I first joined would see the difference - and that was already several months after I first found out about furries. I think the difference it made was that I became more aware of myself. More secure in who I was, and what I liked. I was a furry, and that was that. And I began to find out more and more about myself as time passed, and I rediscovered some parts of myself that I thought were gone. They weren't - I just stuffed them away into a dark corner of my mind and forgot about them.

I'm not sure if this has changed me everywhere, but it has certainly made me more self-aware and generally happier. I finally knew who I really was, and I knew who I wanted to be.

[Caoimhin]

I'm still in denial in a way . But a few people in the Anime Club call me their "furry friend". But, it has changed me as well.

[Rooster]

I've never really had a problem talking to people I don't know, as most of those that I do like to talk about themselves. Whereas I can't, becuase I feel like theres really not that much to talk about. But hearing about toher peoples lives is really intersting to moi.