Shyness, RL Vs. The Internet
Posted: Mon Aug 28, 2006 9:55 am
I Just need to discuss this for some reason... I don't know why... I just do...
As humans, we are naturally curious creatures, but we also have the Shyness quality. Shyness has diffrent levels for everbody, for somepeople they could walk straight up to someone and be "HI! WHAT'S YOUR NAME????" and for others, they will become antisocial because of their shyness. but then something else comes up, the ability to stay anonymous with the internet and other various mediaums and tools.
I'm going to use me gfor an example to deminstrate my point. Normally, in RL, I ahve a close cirle of friends I hang out with, and I have trouble meeting new people. usually someone would have to come up to me and start the conversation unless i am in need of something. Anyof you that know my AIM or YIM screen name, know that I will RARELY strike up a conversation on my own. usually you will need to IM me first before I will talk.
But here's anbothe rthing, for those that I know, the say I can become a real Chatterbox at times. I could talk and talk for hours at a time with someone I knew as a friend. it's odd really. I'm shy at first, but once I get to know someone, I find it incredably easy to talk to. (might also be one of the reasons I've been having trouble getting a girlfriend.)
But here's the real zinger, on the Internet, a place where I feel I can talk safely without someone knowing who I am, no matter how perverted it sounds, it makes sense if you think about it. Now adays your pretty much safe being on the web. You can talk to someone and not know what they look like or much about them, but you can still talk to them. It's like all the rules of Shyness just sprout wings and fly out the door. I'm able to join forums and 9usually) be a very active member, and I can anonymous, and yet still have a good conversation.
But then there's one more thing that makes me think. People who wear full body suits, Like fursuiters and Mascots, they can go crazy and wild, and could act completely the opposite of who they really are, and it's all because their face is hidden behind a mask. they could be someone you'd bnever expect to act like that. you could find a fursuiter dancing to "Everytime we Touch" and then realize the Fursuiter is actually a goth. I've heard that once your in one of the suits, it's like all your worries are gone bacause nobody could recognize you (unless you jsut HAPPEN to have a very distinct fursona that anyone you've shown to would recognize you on the spot once they saw you.)
Anyway, what I'm saying is, what is your take on this, and how shy are you in RL. I know for a fact that if I went to an Anthrocon knowing any of you were gonna be there, I'd still feel pretty shy and probably just look in Artist's Alley. But what about you?
As humans, we are naturally curious creatures, but we also have the Shyness quality. Shyness has diffrent levels for everbody, for somepeople they could walk straight up to someone and be "HI! WHAT'S YOUR NAME????" and for others, they will become antisocial because of their shyness. but then something else comes up, the ability to stay anonymous with the internet and other various mediaums and tools.
I'm going to use me gfor an example to deminstrate my point. Normally, in RL, I ahve a close cirle of friends I hang out with, and I have trouble meeting new people. usually someone would have to come up to me and start the conversation unless i am in need of something. Anyof you that know my AIM or YIM screen name, know that I will RARELY strike up a conversation on my own. usually you will need to IM me first before I will talk.
But here's anbothe rthing, for those that I know, the say I can become a real Chatterbox at times. I could talk and talk for hours at a time with someone I knew as a friend. it's odd really. I'm shy at first, but once I get to know someone, I find it incredably easy to talk to. (might also be one of the reasons I've been having trouble getting a girlfriend.)
But here's the real zinger, on the Internet, a place where I feel I can talk safely without someone knowing who I am, no matter how perverted it sounds, it makes sense if you think about it. Now adays your pretty much safe being on the web. You can talk to someone and not know what they look like or much about them, but you can still talk to them. It's like all the rules of Shyness just sprout wings and fly out the door. I'm able to join forums and 9usually) be a very active member, and I can anonymous, and yet still have a good conversation.
But then there's one more thing that makes me think. People who wear full body suits, Like fursuiters and Mascots, they can go crazy and wild, and could act completely the opposite of who they really are, and it's all because their face is hidden behind a mask. they could be someone you'd bnever expect to act like that. you could find a fursuiter dancing to "Everytime we Touch" and then realize the Fursuiter is actually a goth. I've heard that once your in one of the suits, it's like all your worries are gone bacause nobody could recognize you (unless you jsut HAPPEN to have a very distinct fursona that anyone you've shown to would recognize you on the spot once they saw you.)
Anyway, what I'm saying is, what is your take on this, and how shy are you in RL. I know for a fact that if I went to an Anthrocon knowing any of you were gonna be there, I'd still feel pretty shy and probably just look in Artist's Alley. But what about you?
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