Randomly obligatory 2004 end-of-year topic

Softpaw · Postby **Softpaw** » Wed Dec 29, 2004 9:21 am

<table border='0' align='center' width='95%' ><tr><td class='quotetop'>Quote: (Ruedii-X @ Dec 29 2004, 01:04 AM)</td></tr><tr><td class='quotebody'>  <table border='0' align='center' width='95%' ><tr><td class='quotetop'>Quote: (DraganFox @ Dec 29 2004, 12:45 AM)</td></tr><tr><td class='quotebody'> As cliche as it sounds, I have to toss my hat into the ring of everyone else who says 2004 was a year of "great personal change" and stuff. -The first half of the year was dominated by school, which completely robbed me of any form of life or personality for a good while. Thankfully I survived, emerged slightly more educated in some obscure way, and it's been less stressful since. -Spring was marred by a pretty turbulent episode with me and a lot of my friends. I've since redefined what I consider to be a friend and who I hold close to me. -June brought me getting back together with my ex-girlfriend for the second time, after going out for 15 months and then breaking up for the following 9. It brought with it some pretty odd experiences... -July saw me attending a summer session and living on campus at the University of Delaware and attending classes there for a month. More than that, it put me in the best and most relaxing social atmosphere I've ever experienced, and I decided that I love "the college life." -August ended my summer session at UD and brought my return to high school for my senior year. I've never hated school more than I have this year. I'm dying to hurry up, graduate, and get the hell out of there so I can go to college. -September brought the end of my 2nd relationship with my ex-girlfriend due to the personal revealation that I'm gay. This was definately the most defining experience of my year, because love is a pretty important thing, so it's nice to know the truth about it, isn't it? -This winter saw me join my school's swim team; my first involvement in a school sport. It's been pretty awesome, and it does a nice job of relieving whatever stress finds its way into my life. I would call my 2004 a stressful year, but ultimately a good one. It brought about it some necessary changes in my life that will hopefully allow my 2005 to kick some tail. </td></tr></table>  I'm not sure if you should jump to the conclusion that you are gay so fast. Maybe you just don't find women like you have been looking at attractive. Different men have different tastes in women. A guy will point out a girl walking down the street in some cloths that consist of more shoestrings than actual material, and I will gag, but then a girl who is modest walks by, and I'm so attracted to her, and that same guy wonders why I would like a girl like that.  </td></tr></table>  Just because he summarized his coming out experience into one bullet-point doesn't mean it was an instant decision, it just means he doesn't want to share the story with us. Hell, I could say "I discovered I was gay in high school", and be done with it, yet the full story could fill its own book. Just because you find females attractive doesn't mean everyone else does. And the fact that you're straight is enough justification for me to say don't ever try to tell someone who says they're gay that they're jumping to conclusions. You may think you're some enlightened genius, but you're not, so don't open your mouth about stuff you couldn't possibly understand.

simon · Postby **simon** » Wed Dec 29, 2004 10:50 am

Well I finished school... Yeah. Next year is when it really begins for me. Well said, Felix.

dragonranpu · Postby **dragonranpu** » Wed Dec 29, 2004 12:51 pm

I had a turbulent year. For the most part it sucked. Mom ended up in nursing home and I was without job but had UI and going to school toget MCSE and such. Went for two month without job and income. Got really depressed and came close to walking off into the sunset. The last couple of months have improved. I did go through some personal changes. Learned to let life go on and let it do its thing and accept what happens and make the best of it. Have a job I likenow but it will be short lived becuase it is a contract job. I hate where I live and cannot afford to move out. Am behnd on rent and just writing this makes me relize just have sucky it has been. But it is geting better.

Burning Sheep Productions · Postby **Burning Sheep Productions** » Thu Dec 30, 2004 3:55 am

Weird, everyone's having personal discovery and advancement stuff.

Richard K Niner · Postby **Richard K Niner** » Thu Dec 30, 2004 3:59 am

I'm not <img src='http://definecynical.mancubus.net/forum ... tongue.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='tongue.gif' />

Burning Sheep Productions · Postby **Burning Sheep Productions** » Thu Dec 30, 2004 4:02 am

Screw up what I said why don'tcha? *Starts painting walls purple.*

GhostWay · Postby **GhostWay** » Thu Dec 30, 2004 4:25 am

Careful, you don't want to send Tavis into "purple overload," do you?

Arloest · Postby **Arloest** » Thu Dec 30, 2004 6:06 am

This year, I lost most of my friends, as most of them moved away. Also, my parakeet died. And so did my grandmother. I shed a lot of blood from a lot of injuries, realized that I'm really evil and like to turn people into hogs, I lost my adminship at 4 forums, my house lost air conditioning in the summer in Houston, I failed my astronomy test. Oh, and I discovered Nightwish and this place. Therefore it was a good year.

Tavis · Postby **Tavis** » Fri Dec 31, 2004 4:07 am

oooh... purrrple.... Anyway, going back to this, I'd have to say that this year has brought about-- ah, several changes. (note: rephrased very carefully to avoid a painfully bad pun.) The weather and geophysics alone have produced some big ones. I'd like to think I have changed a lot in this year as well, that is, in developing my skills and knowledge of what's around me, earning the friendship of many good people, and generally contributing something positive to others. I suppose in my small way I did accomplish that. That and that I was able to keep my New Year's Resolution. <img src='http://definecynical.mancubus.net/forum ... /happy.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='happy.gif' /> Well, sorta.. <img src='http://definecynical.mancubus.net/forum ... ns/dry.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='dry.gif' />

Ruedii-X · Postby **Ruedii-X** » Fri Dec 31, 2004 6:34 am

<table border='0' align='center' width='95%' ><tr><td class='quotetop'>Quote: (FelixSoftpaw @ Dec 29 2004, 04:21 AM)</td></tr><tr><td class='quotebody'> Just because he summarized his coming out experience into one bullet-point doesn't mean it was an instant decision, it just means he doesn't want to share the story with us. Hell, I could say "I discovered I was gay in high school", and be done with it, yet the full story could fill its own book. Just because you find females attractive doesn't mean everyone else does. And the fact that you're straight is enough justification for me to say don't ever try to tell someone who says they're gay that they're jumping to conclusions. You may think you're some enlightened genius, but you're not, so don't open your mouth about stuff you couldn't possibly understand.  </td></tr></table>  I'm not saying that. I'm just saying many people make ALL life changing decisions very quickly. I've always been slow to form plans in my life, and maybe I've pushed it onto others, but not without reason from my own observations. The worst time to make such a decision is when realizing you have made a related bad decision. This goes for all things. I do agree being honest with yourself is important, but you have to know what you believe before you can be honest about it, otherwise you are lying by substituting "think" with "know", which is among the most devistating lies one can make to anyone. I figure there are so many things to enjoy in this life, why should we try to rush decisions along. If you are unsure about something, just spend some time away from it, it will clear you're mind of the idea and you can think more clearly about it later, as it comes up. I know this sounds idealistic, and all, especially under something that society seems to put such precidence on. However, not all cultures believe that precidence means that something should be taken fast, instead they believe that one should be cautous. In my experience, rushing decisions only leads to rash judgement and injured feelings on all parties involved, as does postponing any thought on the matter, one must strike a ballance. Decisions as of relationships with people, whether friendship or love, can be particularly hard. I have spent years pondering such issues. It often takes a while to mend something that is broken. You can't just wash off the pain of a broken heart, or broken pain. You are the one that's assuming. You assume that because you hid you're homosexuality, that he is automatically in the same boat, and nobody else could relate. I wish you could see the irony of that statement. NO two situations are the same, no two lives the same, no two minds the same, no two hearts the same. You cannot assume others feel what you feel, and you cannot assume they do not have at least some understanding. You assume because I say that is not a way to prove it, I am saying it isn't true. That's like saying that something isn't true just because some idiot who didn't know what they were talking about told you. It just means that it requires further thought. I'll tell you, I doubt anyone on this earth is truely enlightened, not me, not you, not anyone. WE ARE HUMAN. We cannot know things for sure, which is why we must be cautious in all we do. Lack of caution causes war, it causes pain, it causes devisatation. There is no reason not to exercise caution in all that we value. I may not be in agreement with most Americans here, but I find love to be the strongest value in all of our lives. It is the force that bonds humans together. Love of our friends, love of our coligues, love of our bretherin, and love our partners. It is not something that should be taken as a triviality, or a simple passing whim. If you don't agree that is you're choice, but that is my belief, and I will state it, as it is my right to.

Ruedii-X · Postby **Ruedii-X** » Fri Dec 31, 2004 6:37 am

<table border='0' align='center' width='95%' ><tr><td class='quotetop'>Quote: (dragonranpu @ Dec 29 2004, 07:51 AM)</td></tr><tr><td class='quotebody'> I had a turbulent year. For the most part it sucked. Mom ended up in nursing home and I was without job but had UI and going to school toget MCSE and such. Went for two month without job and income. Got really depressed and came close to walking off into the sunset. The last couple of months have improved. I did go through some personal changes. Learned to let life go on and let it do its thing and accept what happens and make the best of it. Have a job I likenow but it will be short lived becuase it is a contract job. I hate where I live and cannot afford to move out. Am behnd on rent and just writing this makes me relize just have sucky it has been. But it is geting better.  </td></tr></table>  Don't take the MSCE too seriously, it's hardly worth anything to anyone who isn't a buisness major. I've seen MSCE certified technicians who couldn't identify the accronym SMTP.

Ibun · Postby **Ibun** » Fri Dec 31, 2004 8:16 am

<table border='0' align='center' width='95%' ><tr><td class='quotetop'>Quote: (Ruedii-X @ Dec 31 2004, 03:34 AM)</td></tr><tr><td class='quotebody'>  <table border='0' align='center' width='95%' ><tr><td class='quotetop'>Quote: (FelixSoftpaw @ Dec 29 2004, 04:21 AM)</td></tr><tr><td class='quotebody'> Just because he summarized his coming out experience into one bullet-point doesn't mean it was an instant decision, it just means he doesn't want to share the story with us. Hell, I could say "I discovered I was gay in high school", and be done with it, yet the full story could fill its own book.</td></tr></table>  *Long boring rant about something I could care less about*</td></tr></table>  Do you enjoy trying to incite anger in people? First of all, you don't know Dragonfox like I do. He's a good guy. He's not a moron like you seem to think he is. I know for a fact that this wasn't just a flippant decision. He's actually put some thought into it. Second, instead of making huge posts with no apparent meaning or value to them, try making them shorter with a point instead. You seem so insistant on proving that others are making mistakes, when you yourself have made plenty in the short time you've been here. I must request that you stop trying to find flaws in others and just have a good time. Not everything has to be a debate you know. Just chill out and relax for a change. It'd be much appreciated by many people here.

Zylo · Postby **Zylo** » Fri Dec 31, 2004 8:35 am

I just don't appriciate my decision being called into question. I spent many years in confusion, dealt with many awkward situations in relationships, and caused a lot of pain to myself and people around me. It was something that made me extremely miserable at times. I don't appriciate the decision that I arrived at from all of that being questioned in any way by someone who, like you said youself, has not had the same experiences and cannot truly relate. Whether or not you don't think you're making accusations about people, you are. Please watch what you say. It takes a lot to get me worked up about something, but I really don't appriciate all this being questioned.

Softpaw · Postby **Softpaw** » Fri Dec 31, 2004 10:21 am

[gives hugs & cookies to DF and Jeff] Ruedii, I'm not even going to bother with your post because, like usual, you wrote almost a full page without a shred of relevance. You're the only one who seems to think you're right on this, so please just drop it. That's all I have to say about that for this weekend, my mate is coming down from Philly and I want to think happy thoughts for the weekend <img src='http://definecynical.mancubus.net/forum ... tongue.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='tongue.gif' />

Ibun · Postby **Ibun** » Fri Dec 31, 2004 8:10 pm

<table border='0' align='center' width='95%' ><tr><td class='quotetop'>Quote: (FelixSoftpaw @ Dec 31 2004, 07:21 AM)</td></tr><tr><td class='quotebody'> [gives hugs & cookies to DF and Jeff] That's all I have to say about that for this weekend, my mate is coming down from Philly and I want to think happy thoughts for the weekend <img src='http://definecynical.mancubus.net/forum ... tongue.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='tongue.gif' />  </td></tr></table>  Yay! Cookie!!! <img src='http://definecynical.mancubus.net/forum ... iggrin.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='biggrin.gif' /> Hope you have fun with Skippy!!! <img src='http://definecynical.mancubus.net/forum ... iggrin.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='biggrin.gif' />

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